4 Ways to be More Confident and Content

This is our first post on a topic that’s pretty personal to us and that we’ve recently discussed as sisters. We hope it will be relevant to any of you who are seeking to increase in confidence in yourselves and contentment in your lives.  Nobody’s expected to be perfectly chipper, happy, and confident all the time, but here are four ways we’ve found to be effective in helping us stay on track to become so!

1. Serve

The first way we have found to increase in our confidence and contentment is to serve others. The remedy for discontentment is service! Our lives are a gift and God would have us use our lives in his service and in the service of others. In Luke 17:33 we read: “Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.” In other words, if we are living only for ourselves, our lives will be dull, lackluster and empty. On the other hand, if we lose ourselves in the service of others we will ultimately find ourselves as we blossom in love and happiness. Our own lives are blessed as we try to turn outward and bless the lives of others. We can be the Lord’s hands here on the earth, reaching people He can’t reach himself.

2. Have an Attitude of Gratitude

Grateful, happy personalities are so beautiful! When people can feel of your positive vibes and love for life, they too are energized and uplifted. The things you put effort into on the inside will always be reflected on the outside, and in this case, an attitude of gratitude will translate into shining confidence and contentment. One of the best ways to be at peace with yourself and your circumstances is to count your blessings. Start a gratitude journal and jot down one thing a day you’re grateful for, or brainstorm 100 things you love about your life and the people around you- try not to have a smile on your face when you’re finished! Our Dad has inspired by using a gratitude rock. He’ll put it in his pocket, or leave it on his work desk, and every time he touches it or sees it he thinks of something he’s grateful for. What a great reminder of all the wonderful things we enjoy on a daily basis, and the Lord’s hand in all things in our lives. That knowledge alone will give you all the confidence you need!

3. You Do You

Comparison truly is the thief of joy! God has a mission prepared for you that only you can fulfill. The gifts and talents you have been blessed with are yours alone, and comparing them to the gifts and talents of others will only lead to dissatisfaction. We love this quote by Bonnie D. Parkin: “We cannot allow ourselves to feel inadequate by focusing on who we aren’t instead of on who we are!” Don’t look around at the world and compare yourself to what others may or may not have, but instead look up to God to teach you about who you are and what He would have you do. Don’t look around, look up! God created you with your own unique set of interests, personality traits, likes and passions, and even personal style. Living within the framework of His plan for you can magnify your uniqueness as His son or daughter and allow your true spirit to shine through.

4. Seek God First

The ultimate secret to “doing you” and not worrying about the judgment or approval of others is to seek God’s approval first. The Lord will never tell you you’re not beautiful enough, or you don’t own a nice enough car, or have an instagram feed as nice as your friend’s, or house as big as your neighbor. No, God will look at your heart (1 Samuel 16:7) and send you words of love and encouragement, and inspire you to work harder to be a little kinder, love a little better, and ultimately live like our Savior, Jesus Christ did. THAT is what He cares about, and His opinion is the only one that matters. Make the Lord your hero and strive to be more like Him and develop His qualities in your own life and character instead of focusing on trying to be like others in the world. Spend your time and energy trying to be more like Him as opposed to your favorite instagrammer or vlogger. When you center your life on Christ, you will be able to be fully fulfilled, happy, confident, and content. He truly is the way, and it works without fail.

Let us know in the comments below how you strive to be content and confident! We love you all, hope that we can support each other wherever we are on our personal road to happiness.








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  • This is so amazing. I’m going to do all of this since I have to move before March 31st and I have been so stressed. I have been looking up to the Lord and he is going to help me

  • Awesome post! but just wanted to clarify something about the last sentence on 1.Serve, ” reaching people he *can’t* reach himself.”
    God holds more power than we can fathom, so honestly He’s the one reaching those people but He is reaching them through you. He gives us the power to reach them, we are not doing it on our own. The Holy Spirit is our helper.

  • Thank you so much! I struggle with confidence and will most definitely begin focusing more on what God wants. I live my life in constant fear of what others are thinking, and because of that I can hardly help or serve anyone because I’m too focused on myself and what people think of me. But this blog is an encouraging blessing! Love you all! 🙂

  • I absolutely love the new blog! You guys have truly inspired me. I’m not lying when I say you guys have helped me build a better relationship with God and that in itself has giving me so much confidence to just be who I am. Thank you so much for all that you do !!

  • i try to be confident and content by knowing that most people (usually the frustrating ones) are temporary, in other words:
    they won’t be in your life forever, maybe only for a school year or a few months.
    PS– love, love, love the new blog! even more of the gardiner family? yes, please!

  • I love this! Thank you so much, I’m excited for what the future has in store for your new blog! I was wondering, do you ladies have tips for bible study? I personally find it hard to sit down and submerge myself in God’s word sometimes, and it can also be difficult to meditate on his word throughout the day. I’d love to know what you think about this and how you consistently follow God each day. I love how you’ve been taught to think of others above yourselves, and I’m sure that plays a big part in your every day walk with Jesus.

  • Love the new blog and am so Grateful for this post. I often loose my confidence and I didn’t think about how god might use others to remind me of what he appreciates about me and my heart. 💗💗