This is our first post on a topic that’s pretty personal to us and that we’ve recently discussed as sisters. We hope it will be relevant to any of you who are seeking to increase in confidence in yourselves and contentment in your lives. Nobody’s expected to be perfectly chipper, happy, and confident all the time, but here are four ways we’ve found to be effective in helping us stay on track to become so!
The first way we have found to increase in our confidence and contentment is to serve others. The remedy for discontentment is service! Our lives are a gift and God would have us use our lives in his service and in the service of others. In Luke 17:33 we read: “Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.” In other words, if we are living only for ourselves, our lives will be dull, lackluster and empty. On the other hand, if we lose ourselves in the service of others we will ultimately find ourselves as we blossom in love and happiness. Our own lives are blessed as we try to turn outward and bless the lives of others. We can be the Lord’s hands here on the earth, reaching people He can’t reach himself.
2. Have an Attitude of Gratitude
Grateful, happy personalities are so beautiful! When people can feel of your positive vibes and love for life, they too are energized and uplifted. The things you put effort into on the inside will always be reflected on the outside, and in this case, an attitude of gratitude will translate into shining confidence and contentment. One of the best ways to be at peace with yourself and your circumstances is to count your blessings. Start a gratitude journal and jot down one thing a day you’re grateful for, or brainstorm 100 things you love about your life and the people around you- try not to have a smile on your face when you’re finished! Our Dad has inspired by using a gratitude rock. He’ll put it in his pocket, or leave it on his work desk, and every time he touches it or sees it he thinks of something he’s grateful for. What a great reminder of all the wonderful things we enjoy on a daily basis, and the Lord’s hand in all things in our lives. That knowledge alone will give you all the confidence you need!
3. You Do You
Comparison truly is the thief of joy! God has a mission prepared for you that only you can fulfill. The gifts and talents you have been blessed with are yours alone, and comparing them to the gifts and talents of others will only lead to dissatisfaction. We love this quote by Bonnie D. Parkin: “We cannot allow ourselves to feel inadequate by focusing on who we aren’t instead of on who we are!” Don’t look around at the world and compare yourself to what others may or may not have, but instead look up to God to teach you about who you are and what He would have you do. Don’t look around, look up! God created you with your own unique set of interests, personality traits, likes and passions, and even personal style. Living within the framework of His plan for you can magnify your uniqueness as His son or daughter and allow your true spirit to shine through.
4. Seek God First
The ultimate secret to “doing you” and not worrying about the judgment or approval of others is to seek God’s approval first. The Lord will never tell you you’re not beautiful enough, or you don’t own a nice enough car, or have an instagram feed as nice as your friend’s, or house as big as your neighbor. No, God will look at your heart (1 Samuel 16:7) and send you words of love and encouragement, and inspire you to work harder to be a little kinder, love a little better, and ultimately live like our Savior, Jesus Christ did. THAT is what He cares about, and His opinion is the only one that matters. Make the Lord your hero and strive to be more like Him and develop His qualities in your own life and character instead of focusing on trying to be like others in the world. Spend your time and energy trying to be more like Him as opposed to your favorite instagrammer or vlogger. When you center your life on Christ, you will be able to be fully fulfilled, happy, confident, and content. He truly is the way, and it works without fail.
Let us know in the comments below how you strive to be content and confident! We love you all, hope that we can support each other wherever we are on our personal road to happiness.